James Barbour’s quiet strength: A simple notebook under fading holiday lights—space for the pauses that build resilience.
As holidays fade, it’s the quiet ‘no’s that stick—those moments that feel like detours but often lead somewhere better. Resilience, for me, isn’t about ignoring them. It’s about pausing to see the frame widen.
For example, in my latest Substack on quiet strength, I unpack three habits: A simple question to slow the spiral, anchoring to your core why, and this perspective shift. They come from years of turns I couldn’t plan, but chose to lean into.
The Power of Pausing to Widen the Frame
And then there’s perspective.
Not the kind that dismisses the difficulty, but the kind that widens the frame just enough to see that one moment doesn’t define the whole story.
What feels like a setback in isolation can become useful when you view it as part of a longer arc.
From ‘No’s to New Paths
I’ve had plenty of “no’s” over the years. Looking back, most of them reshaped the path in ways I couldn’t have planned at the time.
Not because I forced meaning onto them, but because I stayed open to what they were asking me to adjust. That openness isn’t always easy—it’s a choice to lean in, like trading the comfort of old loops for the clarity of one honest step.
In my reflections, it’s the difference between spinning and stepping forward.
James Barbour resilience builds there, one adjusted angle at a time.
(Full reflections on quiet strength: [Substack link].
What’s a “no” that opened a door for you?
See how I broke my own cycles here.
These shifts aren’t overnight. They’re the small choices that stack—staying open when it’s easier to close off. In my work with Laughing Dog Medis, it’s the same: Every detour refines the story. If a ‘no’ has ever lit your way, drop it in the comments. Let’s swap paths.
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